Isn’t It Romantic?

Tonight, my friend and I saw the romantic comedy Isn’t It Romantic? starring Rebel Wilson as Natalie, a New York architect who works hard to get noticed at her job but is more likely to deliver coffee and bagels than design the city’s next skyscraper. She gets knocked unconscious in a subway mugging and wakes up to find herself in an alternate universe. Disenchanted by love, Natalie’s worst nightmare comes true when she suddenly realizes she is playing the leading lady in a real-life romantic comedy.

The movie’s self-awareness about the many clichés of romantic comedies make it a joy to watch. It also features several themes about the importance of vision and love.

Worthy of Love

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Young Natalie watches Pretty Woman with Julia Roberts and Richard Gere.

As a young girl, Natalie loved watching the classic romantic comedy Pretty Woman with Julia Roberts and Richard Gere. Her mom says, “It’s just a movie…life’s not a fairy tale. Girls like us don’t get that.” Young Natalie asks why. Natalie’s mom responds, “Well, look in the mirror,  doll. We’re no Julia Roberts.”

In that moment, Natalie’s mom showed her a skewed, lesser vision of herself, her beauty, her worth, and love and shattered her dreams. Natalie believed her mom. 25 years later, this vision manifests in her daily life. She gets used to poor treatment by others at work. Even her pet dog ignores her. Her project manager Josh likes her, but she keeps friend-zoning him.

Be Open, Be Seen

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Whitney encourages Natalie to open up more to love.

While at work, Natalie’s best friend and assistant Whitney (Betty Gilpin) watches romantic comedies. Natalie rants about the evils of these movies to Whitney who says, “I think people would have an easier time seeing you if you were a little more open.”

F.L.Y. – First Love Yourself

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Natalie and Josh are best friends.

While living in a romantic comedy world, Natalie learns that her best friend Josh (Adam Devine) will marry Isabella (Priyanka Chopra), the Pantene model he only met and dated for a few days. Natalie realizes that she loves Josh and tries to stop the wedding by making him fall for her at a karaoke bar. It does not work. On the day of the wedding, she races to the church and bursts into the ceremony only to realize that she now loves…herself.

Love for herself changes Natalie and her interactions with others. She stops taking out the trash and doing other people’s tasks. She confidently presents her idea at work. And she learns that while she sits in front of an ad of the Pantene cover girl (Priyanka Chopra), Josh is watching her.

God’s Message to Me

For all its satire and cheese, Isn’t It Romantic? sends an important message about self love that I needed to hear. At the end of the movie, my mind went back to part of a prophetic word I received from a gentleman named Joey during the Bethel Conference in California on Valentine’s Day:

“Self love will be a major hallmark of your ministry. God will keep telling you over and over again how much He loves you until it clicks with you.”

Isn’t It Romantic? was a love note from Daddy God for me. Thank You, Lord.

See It Before You See It

Gospel singer Karen Clark Sheard sang, “You gotta see it before you see it.”

Gospel singer Karen Clark Sheard sang the following lyrics in her hit song “My Words Have Power” – “You gotta see it before you see it.”

This lyric discusses the importance of visualization. Visualization, according to Cambridge Dictionary, is imagining or remembering someone or something by forming a picture in our minds.

Visualizing is a popular practice. The premise is that if we “see” our goal in our minds first, then we are more likely to achieve it.

This practice is validated in the Bible. According to Proverbs 23:7, as we think in our hearts, so are we. God showed Abraham the stars to give him an image of the number of descendants he would have (Genesis 15:5).

Our Brain’s Filter

This practice is also validated in science. Our brains have a “reticular activating system,” a network of neurons that filters the information we receive. It allows certain information in our brains and blocks out other information. We and others from our past programmed our filter.

If we feel unlovable, our reticular activating system will point out every instance that confirms this belief. This is why we have a confirmation bias. We love to read articles we agree with because it confirms our filter.

The reticular activating system is important because if we took in everything at equal value, our brains would melt down. This system protects our brain by only letting in info it agrees with.

Reprogramming Our Filter

This is why we must reprogram our brains according to the Word of God. This is the importance of looking at our vision boards daily. Our brains will spot opportunities to apply the Word. It will point out evidence that things are working out.

So for instance, if our goal is to improve our confidence, one method of doing this is to read and ponder over scriptures such as 2 Timothy 1:7 – “For God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” or Philippians 4:13 – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

Another way is to close our eyes and get a specific picture in our minds of what it looks like when our confidence increases. We see ourselves speaking up at work, dressing for success, setting boundaries, and taking care of ourselves.

Then we consider the positive emotions associated with these actions. We will feel proud, happy, strong, powerful, and grateful that we took these actions. Marrying this picture with these emotions trains our brains to have a totally different filter.

Our brains don’t know the difference between what actually happened to us and imagined memories we are creating. Our brains experience visualizing as real memories. This changes our reticular activating systems.

Benefits of Visualization

The more we visualize, the greater our confidence and security. Simply visualizing ourselves doing things help us develop and improve the skills as if we are actually doing it. We believe what we think because we are reprogramming and changing our brains.

The more we believe in ourselves, the more confident we become, the more skills we build, and we will actually do it. Our brains will seek opportunities to do what we have in our minds.

I review my 2019 vision board regularly. To date, I have already touched 10 of the 20 items on my board. I see my goals first in my mind, then I take action and see them become reality.

How has visualization impacted your life? If you have not already started this practice, I encourage you to try it and share your results.